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What should we say to express sympathy?

What should we say to express sympathy?


By expressing sympathy, you are demonstrating your empathy and concern for the other person’s grief. You can do so easily when you have a wide range of words. You can express how much the deceased will be missed or share a pleasant memory. The most crucial message to convey to someone who has lost a loved one is that you care about them and are available to them as a source of support, even though it may be difficult to know what to say.

Here are some standard expressions to use when expressing sympathy.

I regretted learning about (any Person or incident)

This can be used when you hear about an accident, or a dear colleague or friend of someone you know passes away.

I’m sorry you’ve been having problems with her. I am aware of how important this relationship is for you. I hope things turn out well for both of you.

Saying “I am sorry” shows that you care for the person and you are deeply concerned about the problem that they are facing. 

Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

This expression is used to show support and empathy marker when someone has passed away. It tells the other person that you feel bad for their loss.

That is so heart-wrenching.

This expression can convey that you can feel the other person’s pain with all your heart. 

This is so tragic.

We use this expression as an agreement to show the other person that we share their thoughts about something being bad. 

For instance, 

The fact that you lost your job is so tragic.

The fact that he no longer loves you is so tragic.

Writing Condolence Letters

We use expressions to show sympathy, mostly when writing condolence letters. 

Here are some standard expressions you can use when composing a sympathy note. You’ll see that it’s typical to express written sympathy as a family by using the pronouns “we” and “our” in the plural. Finally, brevity is key when writing a sympathy card. You can choose from the list of given expressions. 

My deepest sympathies for your loss.

We are thinking of you.

She or he was many things to many people, and they will greatly miss them.

During this difficult time, I’m thinking of you.

Upon hearing of your loss, our hearts have been broken with sincere sympathies.

Some expressions shouldn’t be used when expressing sympathy.

What should we say to express sympathy?

“I understand how you feel.”

Even though it might seem like an expression of empathy, this often has the opposite effect. Everyone grieves and experiences loss differently, so you should support the bereaved by having them express the loss. Perhaps saying, “If you want to talk about how you are feeling, know that I am here for you,” would be a better way to demonstrate your empathy.

“S/he is better off now,”

This statement may offend people. They might think,” So, is not being with me and our children preferable to being dead?” This is frequently said to console grieving, particularly when a person is at a loss for words, but it can also have the opposite effect. Avoid using it.

“How are you holding up/doing?”

The majority of people who have experienced a death will respond “Not well” to this question. Although we want to check in with those grieving, the casual nature of this question frequently makes those grieving put on a front.

You can resume living your life at this point.

Death can seem like a relief after a protracted or painful illness, but you should never give the impression that losing a loved one freed you from a burden. 


Sometimes people need sympathy to feel less excluded and alone. They require a sympathetic ear and words of comfort from someone who will hear their side of the story.

While others need sympathy because they are attention-seekers who try to shift the blame for their actions onto others, they pretend to be the victim and justify why they didn’t perform their duties. Your heart will tell you who you should sympathize with, and when the answer comes, you have a list of expressions to use.  These expressions can be used accordingly in speech or in writing to convey your support and sympathy to the listener or the reader, depending on what the situation at hand is. 

Catch you soon,